1st Corinthians 13



Jesus told his disciples that the world would know who they were by their love. That’s what this life is all about, love. The church spends countless hours teaching people how to be married. Seminars, workshops, a teaching series on how to find a spouse, keep a spouse and deepen the relationship with their spouse. Singles ministries teach the proper way to wait on your spouse, but Jesus never said the world would know his followers by their successful marriages, he said the world would know them by their love. What everyone should be teaching is how to love, unconditionally and unselfishly. 1st Corinthians 13 says love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things and endures all things. When we love someone we will support them through the situations of their lives. The chapter also says that love finds no joy in unrighteousness but rejoices in the truth. When we love someone we will be honest with them and correct them in their wrong. That information right there is enough to examine your relationships. Who do you love and who are you just hanging out with?

This brings us to another important question, “Who are we supposed to be showing all this love to?” Mark 12:31 “Love your neighbor as yourself.” Its the age old question, who is your neighbor? We have no problems loving our families and our friends, but what about everyone else? Do we show the same concern for the people we causally know as we show for our families. When  families are going through hard times we offer help. We help with finances. provide a place to stay, make sure others understand our loved ones are only experiencing some setbacks this is not who they are. For others we may pass on a phone number to an agency that may help, our words are often more critical than supportive and often said out of ear shot so we can continue to smile and seem supportive when in reality we don’t care.   1st Corinthians 13:5 “[Love] does not act improperly, is not selfish.”

So. Regarding love…


I would make a good grandma.



Lifestyles of the single and childless. Its the name of my blog but I don’t think I have ever written about either subject. So here we go.

Its not often but sometimes I do get asked why I  am not married or at least in a relationship. Truth is i am afraid of love. My biggest fear in life is that I will fall madly in love, we will have a few great years together and he will die. I can’t take that type of loss or at least I don’t think I can. That’s not to say I don’t want love, I just don’t know how to push past the fear and say yes to love. Earlier this year a friend of mine died. I almost married that man but I needed him to do one very important thing for me. I needed him to take his health seriously. We had a for real argument in which I told him I would not marry him only to have him die on me. This year he died as a result of the one thing he wouldn’t do for me. When I heard of his death I was sad but also mad and I thought to myself,  “I told you so.” His death reinforced my irrational fear. What other ways does this fear mainfest in my life? I only fall for men that are in some way unavailable. The confirmed bachelor, the one that can’t quite decide what they want, the one who”s heart is elsewhere. The list continues. Its a subconscious deliberate decision.

Childless has nothing to do with me. That’s just the way life has played out. However,  the older I get the more i think I may not want children. I like the freedom I have of traveling when I feel like it, not buying groceries, living a seemingly carefree life. I would like to have children in my life so my solution, …marry someone’s pop pop. I am going to be a grandma! Its really the best of both worlds. I get to have kids in my life and still get to travel as much as I want. I am pretty proud of myself for coming up with this plan.😊

So that’s my single and childless life. Its not a bad life to have however its about time I shared my space with somebody.